“You know what’s wrong with you, Miss Whoever-You-Are? You’re chicken, you’ve got no guts. You’re afraid to stick out your chin and say, ‘Okay, life’s a fact, people do fall in love, people do belong to each other, because that’s the only chance anybody’s got for real happiness.’ You call yourself a free spirit, a ‘wild thing,’ and you’re terrified somebody’s gonna stick you in a cage. Well baby, you’re already in that cage. You built it yourself. And it’s not bounded in the west by Tulip, Texas, or in the east by Somali-land. It’s wherever you go. Because no matter where you run, you just end up running into yourself.”
Sometimes we don’t find love because we’re chicken. We’re afraid of getting hurt, afraid of diving in to the unknown, afraid of losing out on missed opportunities…we’re scaredy cats. But, in the same breath that we’re admitting we’re fearful, we are also asking everyone in our inner circle why we can’t find love.
Darling, did we ever think it might have something to do with your whole fear of the unknown…just maybe?
If you’re dying to find love and all of that stuff, you need to put yourself out there. You need to be brave enough to step off the edge before looking. As a wise man once said “you gotta have faith. faith. faith.” I admit, that’s way easier said than done.
The things that scare us the most are typically the ones that are the best things for us.
So, as assignment for this week I think we should all start embracing the unknown a bit more. Why not talk to your crush (yes, I still call people I like crushes), or that hot guy in your building you see all the time? Do something different this week and try to branch out of your inner safety circle. It won’t be easy, but the first time we tried to walk wasn’t that easy either – and now we’re all pros. Just one step at a time and you’ll be that much closer to finding that love you’re afraid of now.