Every now and then I have one of those moments where I step back and take a look at everything I have going on. And now and then, I realize that I might be a little too busy for everything.
After relocating about a month ago, I somehow managed to fill my social calendar to the brim. Between work during the week, unpacking boxes every night, setting up and arranging a new home, writing blog posts, crafting for my little side business/project/thing, and maintaining a social life, I realized that I was incredibly busy. You know things are a little hectic when you don’t even realize how busy you are.
With all this going on, I stopped to ask: “Am I too busy to date?” (And by ask I mean I actually posed this question to How to with Courtney. Her response was “Maybe.”)
Since that moment I’ve met more potential suitors than ever before. After a Halloween bar crawl, I headed to watch the World Series while getting myself some dinner and drinks at a local pub. A girl alone watching a baseball game somehow garnered the interest of a guy hanging out with friends nearby. I left that evening with a number.
The following week, I had plans to meet an online date for drinks. Even though he didn’t manage to show up, I managed to snag yet another number.*
What my crazy calendar has taught me is that I excel when I have “too much to do.” I was obviously able to fulfill my obligations – meet up with friends, get to work, unpack boxes – and I felt happier and more relaxed about dating than I had in a long time. I didn’t sacrifice trying to make dates. I fit that into everything else going on and ended up with more dates in a two week span than I’ve had in the past six months.
Bottom line: Fill your calendar with both the things you want to do and the things you have to do. Maybe you’ll feel more complete too.
*”They” were wrong. You can totally meet guys in bars. “They” were also wrong about how many girls should be out in a bar to meet men. I’ve heard the Two Rule and the Three Rule. Go solo. Much more effective.