Un-Advice

Dating Your Wife SHOULDN’T be Celebrated

Date-Night-IdeasNeither should “babysitting” your kids. But we’ll address that in a minute.

This article has been popping up in my homepage all week long, something about this guy Jarrid and how he is amazing. Finally, I clicked the link bait and was stunned to see that this man was getting so much press because he went on dates with his wife.

I know I’m not married and could never understand the hectic life of a married couple… but uh duh. Shouldn’t you want to date your wife for the rest of your life? I mean that’s why you’re married to this person, right? You’re hoping to spend every Friday night with them (or whatever your “date night” is).

Maybe I’m just some naive girl who doesn’t understand the complex workings of a marriage, but I just don’t understand why this guy gets a big slap on his back and more gold stars then I ever got in all my years of school for dating… his wife.

Do you see where I’m coming from?

Similar to when people say “I need to babysit my kids tonight” – no, you need to be a parent.  And no, you shouldn’t get a gold star for watching your kids. You brought them into this world, now take responsibility. But that’s a rant for some other day when I’m feeling less annoyed.

Back to why dating your significant other shouldn’t be celebrated.

I think you should go on dates with the person you chose to marry. But, I don’t think there should be this big deal made of it. Maybe it’s my inner hopeless romantic (buried deep behind my black heart) that thinks people should just be in love and want to keep the “romance alive” and have it be a thing. I would hope that when I get married (I’ve started saying when, rather than if, because that gives me more hope) my husband and I will want to go on dates together – and you know love each other and want to spend time together and stuff. Because if I’m vowing to spend the rest of my life with someone then you can pretty much bet I still want to go on dates. Just because you put a ring on it doesn’t mean you can stop trying. I certainly don’t plan on giving up and living a dateless life. This goes both ways;  a marriage is work – well, unless we’re going by movies, then it’s just fun and games and alcohol.

Sound off: Do you think dating your significant other should be celebrated? Why or why not?

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2 thoughts on “Dating Your Wife SHOULDN’T be Celebrated

  1. OH MY GOD yes. yes to all of it.
    Gold stars only to extremely creative, completely ridiculous, meeting celebrity kind of dates. No stars necessary for taking your spouse out on a date.

    I agree with you in every sense of this. So once you are officially dating or married you stop pursuing someone? I shake my head at society for making this acceptable and for celebrating this mans “achievement” of basically acting like a god damn husband.

    • I love the misguided passion in BECASEIMSINGLE’s last sentence. As women love to say it takes two to tango..Daily i hear stories, from men, whose wives showered them with love up until the wedding day. Only to then turn them into indentured servants before and after the kids arrive. TRUE both should always love and date each other. But way to many times, in today’s culture, men are portrayed as lacking in everything, especially parenting skills. When men are thanked for being men its uncalled for .. when women are thanked its you go girl.. Unbelievable.

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